But coaching questions are rarely as simple as that. They invite more than answers. They invite particular ways of thinking. If we ask, ‘When did you last have a good conversation with your colleague?’, we are putting importance on ‘conversation’, suggesting that ‘good’ ones might have special relevance and directing the client’s attention to that area.
When someone asks us what seems like a slightly odd question, we might wonder ‘where are they coming from?’ or in what frame does such a question make sense to the inquirer. That can be both more interesting and more challenging than another possible response, which is to reshape their question into a more familiar one which we can easily answer.